Empathy is a function of bandwidth
Some thoughts after reading my friend Somnath’s post on LinkedIn.
Perspective makes you more tolerant of human complexity and less tolerant of the unacceptable. That paradox is real, and I have lived both sides of it.
What I have come to suspect: empathy is not a character trait. It is a resource. It needs slack to operate. When survival pressure compresses the aperture, perspective does not disappear, it goes offline. The founder in month nine of runway anxiety is not a worse person than the consultant they were three years ago. They have less bandwidth. This inverts a comfortable narrative. Exposure does not automatically build perspective. Exposure plus recovery time builds perspective. Without the second part, exposure just becomes scar tissue.
The practical question is not how to acquire perspective. Most of us accumulate enough of it through changing departments, changing industries, or changing diapers. The harder question is how to protect enough slack, during the seasons that compress you, so the perspective you have already earned does not get overwritten by survival reflexes.
I do not have a clean answer yet. I notice the compression. I am working on the protection.